10 things you should know about loving someone with PTSD


1 Trust issues

People with PTSD have learned to distrust others caused by experience. It will take them a long time to put their trust in you. And when they do, make sure that you will be worthy of their trust. You won’t get a second chance.

2 Abandonment issues

Some PTSD’ers are used to losing people. They will expect to lose you too. To avoid the pain, they might even try to push you away. Just stay and don’t give up easy.


3 Love

The ones who have known deep hurt are capable of loving very deeply. If they say that they love you, it’s because they really do and you are very special to them. They won’t show it soon though, of fear that their love won’t be returned.

4 Strength

People with PTSD are survivors and warriors. They fight their own mind and memories every day. But they do feel very weak sometimes, even if they don’t show it. They are masters in hiding their pain and true feelings. Be there for them.



5 Baggage

PTSD’ers Come with baggage. A lot of baggage. They have been through some horrible things and can react differently than you expect. Nightmares,  triggers, anxiety and flashbacks can influence the way they behave. It’s not aimed at you, so stay calm and give them time to calm down too. Remove triggers if you can and stay with them if they have a panic attack. Be supportive.


6 Disbelieve

People with PTSD might have difficulties believing that you care for them or love them. Their past has taught them otherwise. Be patient and show and tell them that you love them often. Eventually they will start to believe again.

7 Alone

PTSD’ers sometimes need time for themselves because their thoughts and feelings overwhelm them. Give them space but don’t let them be lonely. Let them know that you are there if they need you.


8 Memories

People with PTSD are haunted by the trauma that changed their life. Try to understand this when they seem to be overprotective, guarded or even overreacting in your eyes. Their anxiety doesn’t come from what CAN happen, it comes from what already happened. They know, they already have been through it. Their fear is very real and very logical. Remember that.

9 Change

Someone who experienced a serious trauma will change. PTSD leaves scars. Try to get used to the fact that your loved one will never be the same again. Love them the way they are now.


10 Reaching out

Most PTSD’ers will not reach out if they need you. Not because they don’t want to, but because they often don’t know how they can make you understand what they are going through. They might not even understand it themselves. Be there for them anyway. Check up on them and show that you care. It means the world.

Don’t Judge, Just Care.





About Just Patty

Just Patty is a Dutch author who writes Fantasy and Poetry. She models and photographs and has a curious spirit.
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10 Responses to 10 things you should know about loving someone with PTSD

  1. Just Patty says:

    Reblogged this on petitemagique and commented:

    10 things you should know about loving someone with PTSD ❤


  2. Dr. Rex says:

    Reblogged this on It Is What It Is and commented:
    Excellent information about PTSD … please, take a look!!

    Liked by 2 people

  3. idiotwriter says:

    Thanks for the insightful look in here Patty.


  4. Patty, Your PTSD on-line outreach program gets stronger & stronger, like “bullet” messages…..Very effective with people who want to read to the point…..And that’s what you are doing here so well! I know right this moment what you did here is helping someone! Phil


    • h87 says:

      It has helped me. I have mild PTSD myself, and I am falling in love with a Marine Corps veteran with Complex PTSD. Reminding myself of theses simple truths helps me to avoid my own triggers while helping him through his. Thank you.


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