1 Trust issues
People with PTSD have learned to distrust others caused by experience. It will take them a long time to put their trust in you. And when they do, make sure that you will be worthy of their trust. You won’t get a second chance.
2 Abandonment issues
Some PTSD’ers are used to losing people. They will expect to lose you too. To avoid the pain, they might even try to push you away. Just stay and don’t give up easy.
The ones who have known deep hurt are capable of loving very deeply. If they say that they love you, it’s because they really do and you are very special to them. They won’t show it soon though, of fear that their love won’t be returned.
People with PTSD are survivors and warriors. They fight their own mind and memories every day. But they do feel very weak sometimes, even if they don’t show it. They are masters in hiding their pain and true feelings. Be there for them.
PTSD’ers Come with baggage. A lot of baggage. They have been through some horrible things and can react differently than you expect. Nightmares, triggers, anxiety and flashbacks can influence the way they behave. It’s not aimed at you, so stay calm and give them time to calm down too. Remove triggers if you can and stay with them if they have a panic attack. Be supportive.
People with PTSD might have difficulties believing that you care for them or love them. Their past has taught them otherwise. Be patient and show and tell them that you love them often. Eventually they will start to believe again.
PTSD’ers sometimes need time for themselves because their thoughts and feelings overwhelm them. Give them space but don’t let them be lonely. Let them know that you are there if they need you.
People with PTSD are haunted by the trauma that changed their life. Try to understand this when they seem to be overprotective, guarded or even overreacting in your eyes. Their anxiety doesn’t come from what CAN happen, it comes from what already happened. They know, they already have been through it. Their fear is very real and very logical. Remember that.
Someone who experienced a serious trauma will change. PTSD leaves scars. Try to get used to the fact that your loved one will never be the same again. Love them the way they are now.
10 Reaching out
Most PTSD’ers will not reach out if they need you. Not because they don’t want to, but because they often don’t know how they can make you understand what they are going through. They might not even understand it themselves. Be there for them anyway. Check up on them and show that you care. It means the world.
Don’t Judge, Just Care.